Family Meeting!

Well, Some of you may know that I was pretty much summoned to a Family Meeting in reference to my brother's belongings, not so much any material things, but, more about his bank accounts, insurance policies (if Any), and any amounts due for utlities and/ rent... etc. mainly the first two! Earlier in the week, I mentioned that my sister had been asking my younger brother, Stan, for any updates from me... I had been reporting to him, pretty much my findings, and well, I explain to him what I have discovered, and when he tries to tell my sister, he feels that he is not explaining it correctly. He felt like he is blotching it up. I knew that something was not right about his questioning that day, and I had a feeling that my sister.... Well, I just said to him in a from of a question... (she) They don;t think that I know what I am doing, do they?

He answered with .... Well, I think that she wants to have a family meeting on all of this stuff. I thought if she wanted to know so badly, I thought that the meeting was
going to take place in the evening sometime during the week... I still have to finish up cleaning the apartment and stuff. I had made plans to meet some friends at the apartment that needed some tools, and my neice is real need of just general things, she just moved into a dfferent place.
Well, the next call I get from Stan is that the meeting was to be on Saturday morning... I expressed to him that I had made plans to meet people at the apartment in the morning. He knows that it needs to get done. She is just interested in the Ins money.

Anyways, I change plans for this FAmily Meeting, and rearrange my plans with various people. The meeting was to be at 10AM, and had to travel the different direction just for this! Okay, I will do this, cuz I am sure that my Dad has also been curious if there was any insurance or whatever. This morning, I start off my ride to the city... San Jo to San Fran....
As I am getting off the freeway in San Fran, I am getting a call at 10AM.. figured that they wanted to know how long I was going to be. I told them that I was pulling off the Freeway right now,, and will be there in about 10 min.. Well, it was my brother Stan, telling me that my sister was not going to make it. !

I said..Scuse Me? I'll be right there, Ok? He said that she could be on the phone, and Stan could expain everything as we go along. I said, ok whatever suits her. As I am going along showing him my findings, and explaining why I kept that item, whether it was the a bank statement, Insurance Policies, all.. of it. I handed over the bankcards, and possible pin numbers, and all that kind of stuff ie: Power bills, Telelphone bills, other utlity bills, Car Title and Insurance... and stuffs like that. There you are... you got it and with notes on them.. ones that I discontinued service...yadda yadda yadda....Anyways, my brother said that may be I should just keep all the paper work together so that we do not get them lost, or all over the place. ...And yes, Dad was sitting at the table listening in... He felt that he needed to be there since he is the next of kin and so on....

I heard my Dad say... Where is Gail? that be my sister... and was told that she had watch her daughter ........... ??? uhhhhh, okay.... ! We wondered why Gail had called this meeting and why she is not there. That is what Dad kept on saying. Kind of like.. in wonder.. and what a waste of time for all of us involved! So what I had thought on this matter, was true. That my sister just wanted to see if what I was telling my brother was true and in fact, and needed to see evidence of it. Well, maybe with her CPA husband knowing the California Law, that whoever is in possession of the policy, is the rightful 'owner' of the policy at that time. Of course he would not think that I would know something like that! But of course, she does not know that my son is learning law in his third year of college!

I wonder if I will be making any changes to my plans ever again for something that my sister needs to call as an urgent affair! I don't think so!

PE@CE!

More Finalization?

Well, My goodness, I have not posted the majority of the week... Wassup with that? Anyways, I have been going through alot of paperwork, and I am finding out that I am alot like my brother in so many ways. I chuckle at that.

Earlier this week, I had received a call from my younger brother, and he seemed like he had so many different kinds of questions for me, which really surprised me alot. Finally what really came down, was that my family does not think that I know what I am doing. Yepp, its not so much that he disagreed with what I said, it was a matter of the comment that he made, when I questioned him on something. He just said that it seems like I am blotching things up when Gail (my sister) asks what is going on, or something. He just said that maybe we should just have a family meeting, cuz Dad is asking about all the paperwork, as well. I have been letting my brother know what I have been discovering, and well, I had done that mainly so that I got myself in check with all of this stuff, you know?

I never realized just how much people really expect out of you, when... one is doing all that she can, but yet, it really is never good enough for someone in the bunch. What really gets me upset is that, they cannot do what I am doing. Going through my brothers' stuff. But yet they want to know what is going on... Fast enough.. but not fast enough for them. You know? Or for Her.. in this case.

This morning, I decided to call the phone company, and the cable TV people to cancel, or to have service discontnued. I did not realize how hard that was going to hit me until after I did it. I suppose, there will be a lot of these.. 'Feeling of Finalization'... eh? The phone number has been the same for years... and years, and well, It was rough to have to do that. I did not know that it was going to last all day, and even now, I am still feeling a lil down about it. But, as my daughter told me.. MOM, you are doing it for your brother, and out of respect for him, you are the one being strong about all of this.

Anyways, this weekend, I had made plans, yet again, to go over to my brothers' apt, and try to get all the things that need to get done over there, and kind of let the landlady know what is going on. Yes... I found his rental agreement, and the landlady called me and we talked. She knew that I was the younger sister, when she asked me, she said that my brother talked of me often. In kidding, I asked her what did he say about me... She said, Oh nothing, just that you can tell that you were his favorite. :)) Most of the paperwork has been sorted and some of it has been addressed, So when my brother mentioned the Family meeting, I expected it to be during the week, so that I can go finish the other. Well, because my sister said... Its going to interrupt my weekend to get things done. The meeting will be tomorrow morning, when I should really be at my brothers place to clean it up and stuff. ...another .

I think that I have it all together...As a matter of fact, I know I have gone though the paperwork that I have here. Its a matter of sorting them out and have them all together so I can explain it all. During this week, my voice has been rough, being that I am on the phones all day, at work, and then to talk to companies, and being directed to the right department, I've had to explain alot to more people than I ever have. Voice is pretty much gone.

I wonder if they have called anyone, of importance, like Social Security, or Who else is there to call? I do not know if he was working part time, lately or not. I have not really seen a direct deposit outside of his social security go into his accounts, so that makes me think that he was not working of recent, anyways.

Anyways, I hope for it to be a good day tomorrow!

PE@CE!